Happy New Year people, I pray the New Year brings loads of beautiful and amazing things our way in Jesus Name. Today is the 4th day of January 2019, Still wondering how the year has started real good and fast?, You best believe it and get going with all your New Year plans and aspirations, Time waits for no man/woman like we all know. I want to use the opportunity to kick off my weekly thoughts for the year by reminiscing on what happened to me and my family over 25 plus years ago.
My day had literally started as I was already at the office, when I checked my phone and saw my sister had posted something on our family group chat, Then it hit me, Today was the day we lost our Father many years ago, I read it and shared my thoughts, Here are her words though :
Today is Friday, 4th Jan. 2019….Today; we remember 9am on Friday, 4th Jan. 1991….The time they say daddy passed on.
I must have read that obituary program a million times as a child. I recall the burial ceremonies, how small we all were, I didn’t understand everything but I think people wept so much at the thought of how we will survive, especially with a mother so young. I remember wondering why God didn’t wake him up, cos Sister-daddy (My Dad’s Sister) had asked me to pray as God was able to heal him, or raise him up if he was dead!
I’m grateful that my childish mind didn’t decide, after that, that God could not be trusted, instead I learnt to trust Him more for all the difficult times we faced. Each time people saw us, they marveled at how much we had grown; the sadness in their eyes was always so evident. But God is amazing, He delivered excellent things, and is still doing so. I mean, look what He’s done with us… 28 years after!
He’s indeed almighty, none like Him, only His counsel stands, father to the fatherless & husband to the widow… our source, our defender!
Happy Memorial Day wife and children (including our spouses) of Late Prof. Abel Ekpo-Ufot. Daddy schooled to the “zenith” of education (Sister-daddy said this so many times, I think I started to idolize the man), an honest man who loved God and lived for Him… we trust that we shall meet again at the feet of Jesus one day.
Then my mum responded with this:
So thoughtful of you children!
Why I don’t normally put this into writing is this:
I was very angry with God. I cursed Him, abused Him, and even doubted His existence, calling Him wicked.
Why: I was 38 years, 13 years into the marriage, with 7 young children plus 2. No house, no car, not a Kobo in any account, no property, just nothing except, me, Waec and few family members, no willing member to help, nor outside person. They were all running away from me for fear of taking responsibility. It’s a long story.
But thanks to the Women Fellowship of Surulere church when they heard I refused to be consoled but so angry with God. They came in numbers and were able to talk to me, calmed my nerves that I should believe trust and have faith that HE will take care of me and the children.
We had nowhere to go, I withdrew the boys from Unilag School to Fed college. We had nobody visiting us, Unilag gave us quit notice after one year which I ran away leaving some of our property.
Thanks to Aunty Cecilia who came to our rescue by getting a place for us in Ikeja which I never knew before.
From here God took over
Let me stop here. A day will come when I will say it all to the world as a Testimony! (Sorry Mum, The day has come low-key)
I remembered this date last night and I was restless and awake all night with no sleep.
But now looking back, I can say God has kept to His promises of taking care of us to the amazement of everyone that knew me then.
Thanks everyone for making me Proud and a Sophisticated Widow as my friends would say it.
We will do it together one day.
God is really God!
Yes I can share my own side of how I remembered the events that unfolded, but I was that young and can’t remember much, All I remembered and noticed after some time was the fact that The tall handsome man I used to call Daddy and run to sit on his laps after I came back from school wasn’t around anymore…Sighs !!!
When I started writing and sharing my thoughts, the sole aim was just to do something different and share my life experiences with people on this journey of life am currently still on, It has never been about being popular and having many likes and retweets and shares on social media, It was just to meet a different kind of need of ministering to people and encouraging people that life might be hard now, but there is always going to be hope and an expected amazing end is guaranteed with God. People who know me keep wondering how I have survived this long and they see the (supposed) fine face and are like this Guy sha, Too much this, too much that, but they never see the scars underneath and the battles I still fight on a daily basis-They keep wondering how I try to impact so much without flinching on how much I need impacting too, Azzin eh, If only ya’ll know…
This is one part of the testimony like my mum said, We would share for real at the right time, by then, our family picture would have increased a little more and I won’t be the only one without a better half in all sense of the word…Words to understand are very simple, It is not over in whatever you do or are facing in terms of challenges or trials, God is and would always be in control, all you need to do is trust him like we did, and he would bless and cater to all your needs like he did to us…I Pray for God’s blessings on us all In Jesus name, Amen.