Every-time I hear someone tell me ‘’You just forgot me like that’’, and accompany it with ‘’Am kuku where you left me’’, I just shake my head and say in my mind, oops my bad, you forgot yourself, if I forgot you, why can’t you remind me?, Or is there a finite law that states I have to be the only one reaching out to check on you and you can’t do the same? (So many Nigerian ladies are on this table tho,*covers face*)…Would beg your indulgence as I shake this table I know a lot of us are sitting on comfortably.
I woke up around 5.30am on Sunday, 16th September, and said my thanks to God for life, and grabbed my phone beside me and checked out what I missed and picked up conversations and others from where I left off, While checking WhatsApp status messages of my contacts, saw a friend who was celebrating his mum, normal me like he’s my guy yeah, and that’s my mum too, so I buzzed him Happy Birthday wishes to her and wished her many more awesome years, dude was grateful, and later on invited me to come have a bite or something with his family, I was like Oh cool, why not, told him I would be there with my camera to take a few shots, he agreed. After church service and all, I arrived at his place, was kind of the first person there, I was like Ope ooo, should be given extra meat for that when food serving starts (In Tubaba’s voice, Me I like food and I dey straight forward, lol)…Met his amazing mum and few of her friends who came around.
Now this is where it gets interesting, I was just chilling after I took pictures of his mum, expecting more of her friends and all, noticed my guy was busy picking calls and describing his address to various people, had to ask him, an ah, na you dey do party ni ?, he said one or two more people I knew would be joining, I said oh ok cool, would be cool to see some familiar faces, before I could say Oshodi Apapa Express way, about 10 familiar faces had come through, and I was like WOW !!!, so if I didn’t wish this guy’s mum Happy Birthday earlier, that’s how I would have missed out on the mini re-union, choi, e pain me small sha, cos I practically talked about it to everyone who could tolerate me and listen, was like, Oh well, It happens.
Points and lessons to note from my brief narration, First, Nobody owes you anything, I was of the mind-set I mentioned earlier ‘’you just forgot me like that’’, and I blamed him for not hinting me of the plans well before time, because I noticed I was the only one oblivious of the re-union. But then I realized that if I had kept in touch more like the rest of them did, I would have been well acquainted with plans to meet up and not come like a sulking teenager who was left out like I was apparently.
Second thing to buttress is ‘’How communication is a two way street’’, It takes a sender and a receiver for it to be effective. Have you checked on that person in a while?, have you called them up or dropped a message in their inbox to not ask for anything, but just ask how they are doing ?.Yes I admit, most people who reach out usually do when they need something from you, but how many genuinely just check in on people to know how they are doing for real, and probably not to spy on their progress or any other Fetish Nigerian reasons?. We all can’t be snobbish and inconsiderate at the same time, Yes we are going through various things and might not have ‘’TIME’’ like we say, but the least you can do when someone checks in on you sometime, is return the favour when you can…Erhmmm, if you are the kind person to keep checking and checking and checking and checking and checking on a particular person without them returning the favour overtime, check yourself and give yourself brain, it’s ok to free them, God knows you have tried.
Lastly, don’t allow yourself be the Victim of communication, let go of the ‘’You just forgot me syndrome’’, it can lead to depression and thoughts of doubting your self-worth, if I had dwelled on the fact that I was left out, I never would have relaxed and had fun with my friends, I didn’t allow one ‘’You just forgot me moment’’ ruin many other potential amazing re-unions. People are really going through stuffs, someone called me recently lamenting about how rough life was and all, I listened calmly till he was done, when I talked to him about what I had been through in the last few months, he just sighed and said ‘’Guy your own get as e be ooo’’, lol…I know I can’t possibly reach out to everyone I know, My friends from Schools I attended, Locations I lived in, Facebook, WhatsApp, Twitter, Instagram, LinkedIn and so on, But one thing I try to do is always Make myself available if I can, reply messages, like posts, retweet their businesses, drop my congratulations on their new achievements and blessings, wish them well on their birthdays, comment on both fine and ugly pictures, anything I can, and God sees my heart that my intentions are always genuine, God knows. Even though I miss out on some, it’s not because I hate you or am beefing you or whatnot, it just happened that I wasn’t available; cause through it all, am human, and I make mistakes too.
Here’s to lost friendships over the years, and new ones to come. I never have regrets about any memory experienced, You would always have a place in my heart, I promise to make myself available if you need me and If I can help with anything, and most importantly, I forgive you and I hope you forgive me too.
Y’all enjoy the rest of the week and stay blessed.
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